En una piscina se ven a dos niñas tumbadas dentro del agua ayudándose de dos churros acuáticos a mantenerse a flote. ambas llevan gafas de sol y la imagen transmite calma

¿Mi calma o la tuya?

¿Qué fue primero el huevo o la gallina?  ¿Tu calma o la de ellxs? ¿Que patrón de comportamiento estás utilizando de forma habitual en tu día día en general y en la crianza de tus hijos en particular? Tus hijos ¿ven serenidad en tu comportamiento? ¿en tu actitud hacia ellos? ¿ven desbordamientos emocionales? ¿gritos? ¿pérdidas de […]

¿Tienes que hacer? o ¿Quieres hacer?

A veces estamos tan centrados en nuestro día a día, metidos en la vorágine que nos come, que al final no nos damos cuenta de lo que verdaderamente es importante, y no sólo eso, sino cómo hemos dejado que lo que era importante, lo que era valioso para nosotros, lo que nos aportaba tanta felicidad, […]

How NOT to deal with temper tantrums

  Hello, I do not know if you have seen a video, where a father explains how to treat tantrums … From the first moment I saw the video, something in my guts made him reject it and I felt that something was not right. In the video, in case you have not seen it, […]

Don’t do anything that your kids could do on their own

I could not resist sharing this video of my daughters with you. It is the actual reflection of how «we should never do anything for the children that they can do for themselves» as we were told a hundred years ago by two psychologists Alfred Adler and his disciple Richard Dreikurs, (so, we could say, that […]

Do you act or react?

  Today has been a gray day, it has not rained until mid afternoon, but we could not go down to the beach or the pool because the atmosphere was unpleasant. Usually after eating, the girls play a little game «to go to sleep», with some stuffed animals, in their room, I hear them laughing […]

¿Y tú? ¿Te paras antes de reaccionar?

  Hoy ha sido un día gris, no ha llovido hasta media tarde, pero no podíamos bajar ni a la playa ni a la piscina porque el ambiente estaba desapacible. Habitualmente después de comer, las niñas juegan un rato «a que se van a dormir», con algún peluche, en su habitación, yo las oigo reír […]

How do we treat our kids??

I have spent a few days with my partner and two girls in a family hotel. It is not the first time we go, on the contrary, since I was pregnant with Maxi we have come every year, at least a few days, because as I said, it is a family hotel, that means that […]

Why do I love you?

One day I read an article in which I was urged to ask my children why they believed that we, mothers and fathers, loved them.  I always tell them that I love them, but of course, they may not really understand in terms of «cherishing «, «loving», «caring», -they are three and five years old, […]